Sprinkles and Cakepop (my girlfriend)

I’m a private person, I’ve always been. However, I want to share some more personal things with you, starting with Cakepop, my girlfriend.

People might think that being an author is a lonely career, but there are a surprising amount of people involved, behind the scenes and at the front of the house. Most of you know my co-authors and if you’re friends with me on facebook, you’ll have noticed which other authors I’m friends with.

But there’s someone behind the scenes that doesn’t usually get a lot of credit, but that’s about to change.

As you can tell from the little drawing, Cakepop is my only and favourite bat. She’s funny, smart, beautiful, and she claims my face lights up when she enters a room. I’m inclined to believe her because I’m pretty sure that’s exactly what I do.

She also chose the name Cakepop because, and I quote: “sprinkles belong on top of cake pops.”

No, it wasn’t meant in a perverted way. Get your head out of the gutter 🙂

With the help of some of our friends, I’ve made a little Q&A about our relationship because I actually love talking about her and bragging about how awesome she is.

Q: What did you do on your first date?

A: We went for dinner and drinks. We chose a random tearoom to have a lovely meal, but the tables were quite wide and it wasn’t very cosy. So we did a lot of headless walking around to finally end up in a small little café where we talked, held hands, and eventually kissed outside near a beautifully lit bridge. It was the real-life equivalent of a fairytale kiss.


Q: How long have you been together?

A: A little over a year now. It’s the longest relationship I’ve had and I plan to keep it that way.


Q: What do you argue about the most?

A: Work and time. We’re both very driven and ambitious people with big dreams. It’s hard to keep a balanced lifestyle that includes enough quality time and dates, while still having the room for her job and mine.


Q: Who has which side of the bed? 

A: I get the right side because I’m always right. Kidding. It’s because it’s against the wall.


Q: Who of the two of you is more likely to do something weird?

A: Judging from the bemused frowns I get: me? Cakepop has a very loving: “what are you doing now, weirdo” look that she pulls out when I meow at stuff, call a snake a ‘snek’, or decide to jump up and down at 2 in the morning.


Q: Who’s the adult in the relationship?

A: Neither? We leave the dishes hanging around, we don’t vacuum as much as we should, and our laundry pile has turned into piles. We’re not very good at adulting. However, we do our taxes, pay bills on time, and are insured. So maybe we’re not doing too badly.


Q: When are you two getting married?

A: I don’t know yet. We’ve talked about it and agreed that both of us want to be married at some point, but that’s all I know. Could be in ten years, two years, or tomorrow. Who knows?


Q: Do you sleep in trees?

A: No, we don’t.


Q: Do you have a song?

A: Ummmm… *nudges Cakepop*

Cakepop: We don’t have a song, but ‘Symphony by Clean Bandit‘ always reminds me of Sprinkles.


Q: Was it love at first sight?

A: Yes and no? We met over the internet so there wasn’t any seeing for a while, but the first time I heard her voice, I was smitten. The sparks jumped across and when we met in real life —kapoow— firework. (and a lot of nerves)


Q: Do you keep the bathroom door open or closed?

A: Our bathroom door has a mind of its own.

Those are just a couple of things about our relationship, but I thought it was important to share. My cakepop is the support and drive behind my career and I don’t know what I’d do without her cheerleading and constant encouragement.

Together with the Flock and some other good friends I made along the way, she completes Team Vampari and makes my writing possible. It really takes a village, even if it’s virtual.

— Ari

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